Absolutely loosing my mind here. Horrible experience HELP

I think @DestructZero915 is giving you very good advise. I am an ancient manufacturing engineer who learned his lessons painfully over many years and many equipment installations.

Simplify, simplify. Have everything on your desktop closed before you start, no background apps running. Only open applications you are certain are required to run your hardware. For example, I was using SteamVR to drive my Reverb G2 headset. That was a problem. The G2 wants to play with the Windows Mixed Reality Portal. SteamVR is no longer used. I also have Open XR all setup, but I no longer have it open on my taskbar when flying. Its is a time consuming process to identify your particular setup that gives you clean, smooth and sharp flying.

Good luck!