There’s another topic with a bunch of votes that touch on this. It might be the reshuffling thread. It may be helpful to upvote those too.
Anyway, I have four solutions.
One, advance the sim rate and just fast forward through the annoyances.
Two, as mentioned tell the flight computer to go direct to the next waypoint rather than backtrack. Hope it doesn’t freeze the sim.
Three, don’t depend on ATC to assign you an approach. Plan it yourself and add it prior to hitting your last waypoint that it will probably want to backtrack to. Check wind direction before take-off in the start-up map and know to use the wind direction to guess expected active runways. Or check real weather and expected runways while using real weather in the sim, or tune to the radio in the air and hope to figure out the active runways before hitting that last marker.
Three, which is my solution, use Pilot2ATC and dump the stock ATC.