Much better today 
I did the “flight model” change and reset thats been mentioned in many places, that seemed to help a bit.
I also assigned rotor trims but i think i have them backwards, also freaked out when i pressed the button i assigned to “reset rotor trim” - it seemed to end up with almost full aft cyclic input?
Maybe i’ll just skip the trims for a while.
I did manage 5 flights and 5 landings - only one was a crash, survived all he others Still not landing where i want/expect but at least its a landing. I need to learn how to flare in a 'copter to cushion the last few feet to touchdown.
Real good fun though