I agree with you. It’s a simulation. Go play Granturismo or forza (not horizon) OMG I can’t drift every corner and win the race. If you want that in a flight sim go play ACE Combat or something. Maybe a good compromise would be an option for arcade-style playing/full realism. I like both but this game is where I try to make it realistic (I actually fly airplanes). I almost wish they got rid of anything easy in here if you suck well good luck no option to simplify it.
Now I will say there are issues with the things you quoted. Flying out of Denver on a low humidity day, no clouds, but 19 degrees. Let’s ice the whole front window because that’s what happens 
I feel some effects are a bit overdone. I get at times people get caught in bad weather, and it’s nice to be able to see the effects, or fly into icing conditions to be able to use the deice stuff and watch it work.
I think part of the issue might be with this being on xbox. IMO FSX/P3D, XPlane most of the guys that played those older sims, tended to go full sim, were/are real pilots. I think going to the console invited more arcade type players. Not that it’s an issue, but I feel now they have to cater to more diverse audience.