Quest 3 no option to change resolution and refresh in Meta desktop app?

I’m using the latest oculus app from metas website i can see my Q3 in devices, i have no other options apart from sound.

has anyone got the same set up as me?
steam version of MSFS 2020
steam VR (not running)
Air link running
OpenXR runtime selected in occulus app
OpenXR tool kit over riding resolution to 3072
Virtual Desktop set to 80hz and ultra settings

do you see on screen options like the slider to adjust?

I’ve spent the last 3 days trying all sorts of apps and settings and have gone into near brain fade now so it could be something simple I’m missing.

Virtual Desktop bypasses the entire Oculus stack, including AirLink and the Oculus app and driver.
You should change resolution and refresh in the Virtual Desktop streaming settings on the head set.

ah thanks i thought it would be something like that. what i did find is all this time in the settings i didnt have the use openxr runtime checked.