i have found a cause and a solution regarding oculus and possibly others…
OpenXr Reshade is active
i notices in openxr explorer but couldnt remember how it got activated, and i couldnt find how to deactivate it
i deactivated it by opening steam vr going to openxr, layers and deactivating it
as you can see i have oculus as my openxr provider
restart and vr now just works…
i use link cable btw