My FS2020 is from the MS Store.
Since you as Steam based, I guess my experience could be different.
But, for me, XPForce is not a “Stick Shaker”.
I get good feedback from the stick. If I move the joystick to the right left,
yp or down, the stick pushes back with strong force.
Seems realistic although I’m not a real world pilot.
I would not give up on XPForce if you really want it.